Where are my C-section mamas at‼️ ➡️😵💫Based on a real DM sent to my inbox. I’ve gotten hundreds of dms asking why I didn’t do a vbac.
😑There is a lot of chatter on socials about how unnecessary csections are, especially during #csectionawarenessmonth … how they are pushed on moms, how they could successfully do a vbac, how they could have successfully delivered vaginally if they were given more time, or my personal favorite “worst” comment…if mom tried hard enough.
➡️I also have hundreds of messages from C-section moms saying they felt so much shame and guilt around their unplanned or planned C-section until coming to my page and feeling advocated for.
🙌🏽I will continue to advocate for C-section mamas, because there isn’t enough of it.
➡️Whether you wanted or didn’t want your C-section, i think you are a warrior and you birthed your baby by all means necessary.
➡️You sacrificed so much to get your baby into the world safely and in the way that felt best to you. There is no room for shame around that.
✅A C-section…is necessary if it’s what’s mom wants ✅It’s necessary if it’s better for moms mental health ✅it’s necessary if planning a second C-section means that mom can calm her racing fears of ending up in the same emergency situation ✅if it means a safer entrance for baby and for the birth of the mom
➡️🤍Your birth experience matters.
😌Don’t let anyone make you question your choices surrounding your birth, mothering or postpartum recovery. Mama knows best.
Peeing a little when you sneeze or cough or laugh too hard after you have your baby may seem like it is just what happens postpartum. The price of motherhood. Maybe your mother rubs you back or shrugs it off, like oh honey I’ve been peeing my pants for 30 years, there’s nothing you can do about it….UHHH NOOOO thank you! Send your mama to me! No matter how far out postpartum, you can fix this and improve quality of life. There is not a “price” to motherhood that includes a dysfunctional core and pelvic floor. Peeing a little is so common, so don’t feel alone. In the same breath, I want to say, peeing a little is NEVER normal. It is a sign of dysfunction and that something is not working correctly. This is something that absolutely needs to be addressed!
I have many many ways of attacking these issues, because frankly, everyone is so different, so I have many cues, positions and modifications to mamas that are having trouble connecting with their pelvic floor. If you can’t “feel” it, don’t fret! Lots of mamas experience this. It may be because you have a mental block, experienced trauma, you are may still be digesting your birth trauma, you may have physical trauma or scar tissue, you may be uncomfortable connecting with your pelvic floor. These are all things that we need to work through and CAN work through.
Peeing a little can happen with both an overactive pelvic floor (hypertonic) and under active pelvic floor (hypotonic). If you are so so tight and overactive, those muscles are going to be so short, tired and overworked that any additional impact or need for support causes them to give out and you end up leaking. If you are underactive and don’t have much muscle tone in your pelvic floor, you just are strong/connected enough to support your pelvic organs, because you aren’t contracting. Now this can also just be an awareness issue, thats why I say it could be strength or connection. Sometimes with the right cues and exercises, it just clicks and you then can contract easily and start building that muscle thickness. You can’t strengthen a muscle you can connect with, neurologically.
Now for some pelvic floor stuff that the majority of women know about but maybe don’t know the whole story!
I’m sure we have all heard more than once, that to strengthen your pelvic floor you need to be doing Kegels (which is essentially a pelvic floor contraction and lift). And you need to be doing them while you pee, and to practice stopping the flow of pee. Well in honor of the World Continence Week, I want to give you a couple of reasons why you shouldn’t be practicing your Kegels during urination. It’s simply just not functional! This is not the proper time to be contracting the pelvic floor, urinating or defecating should definitely be a time where you are relaxed, deep breathing and not contracting and holding in what you need to let out. This also trains the body that you need to be tense while on the toilet and possibly lead to the bladder not completely emptying as well as creating tight pelvic floor muscles. 😉 Please Leave questions in the comments or email me email@example.com