Why didn’t you do a VBAC

Where are my C-section mamas at‼️
➡️😵‍💫Based on a real DM sent to my inbox.
I’ve gotten hundreds of dms asking why I didn’t do a vbac.

😑There is a lot of chatter on socials about how unnecessary csections are, especially during #csectionawarenessmonth … how they are pushed on moms, how they could successfully do a vbac, how they could have successfully delivered vaginally if they were given more time, or my personal favorite “worst” comment…if mom tried hard enough.

➡️I also have hundreds of messages from C-section moms saying they felt so much shame and guilt around their unplanned or planned C-section until coming to my page and feeling advocated for.

🙌🏽I will continue to advocate for C-section mamas, because there isn’t enough of it.

➡️Whether you wanted or didn’t want your C-section, i think you are a warrior and you birthed your baby by all means necessary.

➡️You sacrificed so much to get your baby into the world safely and in the way that felt best to you. There is no room for shame around that.

✅A C-section…is necessary if it’s what’s mom wants
✅It’s necessary if it’s better for moms mental health
✅it’s necessary if planning a second C-section means that mom can calm her racing fears of ending up in the same emergency situation
✅if it means a safer entrance for baby and for the birth of the mom

➡️🤍Your birth experience matters.

😌Don’t let anyone make you question your choices surrounding your birth, mothering or postpartum recovery. Mama knows best.

#csection #csectionrecovery #csectionmama #csectionscar

2 thoughts on “Why didn’t you do a VBAC

  1. Nicole says:

    Why… Just WHY? Why would someone feel it’s okay to tell you that? I just don’t see how anyone could say or write that and not see how demeaning that is. 🙁 I’m SO sorry that you opened up your DM’s and had to read such a message.
    I’ve had two C-sections, my second was planned and my first was not. Both of my babies were huge (my son was 10 1/2 pounds), and I had one too many women tell me, “Awww, well, having a 10 pound baby vaginally is totally possible. I wish the doctor would have let you try harder and longer.” Hmmm, thank you for that???
    All that mattered to me was that I had a healthy son at the end. The doctor made the call that he felt was best after a day of labor, and – honestly – in the moment, I knew that was the best choice as well. This massive turkey of a baby (my son was HUGE!) would have tore me sooooo badly.
    I also hate that C-sections aren’t considered “natural birth” because – guess what – I still grew the baby for 9 months and still HAD my baby. I just needed help. And C-sections are major surgery with quite the recovery, so I also hate when people talk about them as though they were the easier option. They’re very scary in the moment; so while there might not be pain, the mental strength it takes to get through it is undeniable. And then the recovery, obviously, is more painful.
    If you can’t tell, Girl, I am SO with you on this one!!!! Ha, ha! I love that you’re advocating for yourself and other C-section mama’s! 🙂

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